Making Wise Decisions – Part 4

In December 2024, I set out to complete a personal project that meant a lot to me. It was something I had been planning for months, a clear goal with a set date and a purpose attached. I had done my homework. I had identified a couple of solid professionals who had the expertise, track record, and structure to deliver the project within three weeks, as needed. But then, a friend mentioned they could handle the project. My heart leapt. Here was an opportunity to not only get the job done but also support a friend. The emotional pull was strong, and even though I had my doubts, I convinced myself it would work out.

So I handed the project over.

What followed was a journey of unmet deadlines, vague communication, and excuse after excuse. The project which should have taken no more than three weeks dragged on for two months. And the worst part? I missed the date I had set for the goal. The window I was preparing for closed before the job was even halfway done.

I was frustrated. Not just at the delay, but at myself. I did not lose money, but I lost time, lost momentum, lost the satisfaction of meeting my own deadline and celebrating a personal win.

Because deep down, I knew that I had made the decision from a place of emotion, not discernment. I had placed loyalty over logic, friendship over functionality. And it cost me not money, but time, momentum, and a personal milestone I had hoped to celebrate.

Just because something is “personal” doesn’t mean it should be treated casually. If the goal is real, then the process must be treated with the same seriousness as a corporate deliverable.

This taught me;

• Don’t let emotional attachment cloud your judgment.
• Don’t sacrifice excellence on the altar of sentiment.
• Don’t confuse kindness with compromise.

Supporting friends is noble, but it must come with structure, boundaries, and clear expectations. Otherwise, you risk losing both the result and the relationship.

So next time you’re faced with a similar decision, ask yourself: Am I being professional or just being emotional?

Because sometimes, the wisest thing you can do for yourself (and for your friends) is to let the professionals do what they’re trained to do.

Always remember that emotions are not the enemy, but when they sit in the driver’s seat of decision-making, they can take you places you never intended to go.

Thank you for reading. If this resonated with you, feel free to share your own story or thoughts in the comments. Let’s grow together.

You were MADE FOR MORE

Iamhenrylong